by Danielle Kuznetsov, Heidelberg IWC
The world has changed. Again. And not surprisingly, it is not for the better. Deep sorrow is in my heart for what is happening in Ukraine and Russia – two countries my life has weaved in and out of for the last thirty years, with friends who are like family, a lifetime of memories and a cultural education like no other. I ache for the pain, sorrow, shame and loss on both sides.
In the last month I have experienced a rapid and intense course in GRIEF: denial – this isn’t happening; anger – how dare he do this! bargaining – surely diplomacy will find a way to have everyone save face; deep sadness – human life lost for nothing; and acceptance – this is happening, I am confused, the world as we knew it is gone, and now we need to move forward. But how?
My husband’s company has received 100 refugees, mostly women, and children, somehow connected to the organization. We have been full out caring for them, helping them adjust, providing for their needs and finally getting them registered. The employees have pulled together, and many issues were solved quickly. We spent many hours on the phone, connecting the dots and the people to make a difference. The Heidelberg International Women’s Club has been great in helping collect items that are needed. Twins will be born in a few weeks, children have started online school, and clothes, diapers, toiletries and scooters have been gathered to turn efficiency hotel rooms into a home for now. Life goes on.
Honestly, I have never given much thought to what refugees experience on a personal level. It is not my reality. I am on the outside looking in, even as I try to help here and now. It is not my tragedy. And not my loss. I go home to cook in my kitchen and sleep in my bed.
Why am I sharing all this? Well, because, it is real. And being real and talking about real sh*t that happens is the best way to process the devastation and loss. I am convinced it can not be done alone. Pain is meant for the community, especially when the personal loss is collective.
So, I introduce you to two women who have been helping refugees with their journeys. Tamara is in Poland and Juliah is in Germany. The details don’t matter; how they serve does. Speaking with them picked me up this past week. They reminded me that Faith, Hope and Love are the only weapons strong enough to battle evil. Strengthened in community, they move us forward in life.
Video of my conversation with Tamara
Video of my conversation with Juliah